Its not shared parenting: Its dads getting full custody

Some may wonder as to why members of the shared parenting council often celebrate, commend and applaud   the removal of a mother from a child's life.  That's because if they straight out said that they want all fathers to get full custody, no one would support them.  Shared Parenting is merely a tool for that and does not reflect the consistency in care that was provided for the children before separation.  Shared Parenting is a pathway for full custody.  

The expectations on mothers are exhaustive and so we are naturally set up for failure. Then there are those who look at our gorgeous children as if they are window shopping for mantelpieces to trophy in their lounge room.  In a world where money can buy everything(or so they market people to believe), they begin to calculate how they can wear down that mother so she will hand over that child. As though we are merely pedigree show dogs that are breeding the next batch of wonders. Today's favorite sport is not football or tennis as society bores of the ballgames – It is "who is going to get that baby." Its an intellectual sport where the player must convince the lawmakers that it is a morally superior act and should be done for the sake of the child. It is an unfair sport perhaps no different to the rabbit on a greyhound course flighting a group of dogs gone wild. The rabbit of course is the mother and the greyhounds are the team that works together in competition to rip the child away from the mother. 

Some gnaw away at the emotionality of the cruel process, pointing at every turn, "She is not mentally fit to be a mother, she is crying – She must be depressed!". The usually the crowd goes wild as they scramble in to seize the moment grabbing the child whilst the mother is still weak. The umpire in the game turns his head whilst the bribes are pushing at the seams of his back pocket. How many times have you heard a radio station offer a contestant large sums of money to lie for the audiences amusement? Since the alienation craze spread through the family courts, mothers have been losing children left right and center. They actually call protecting – "Maternal gate keeping" and thats a reason for a mother to lose a child.

In UK, mothers who have had history of violence used against them have their children not only removed -but adopted out. Its a nice little system where social workers are paid $3000 when the child is adopted. Not only do they play a sport that contemporary society considers, "Fun", but they get paid to do it. De-mothering is sadly not restricted to the UK, but everywhere and as the enthusiasm drives this culture, justifying it for empty reasons – We are going to need an Olympics devoted to the entire sport. Why we don't have it on television already? Perhaps just seeing it would expose how barbaric some members of our society truly are.

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Parent Alienation

Parent Alienation Syndrome or disorder is not an official diagnosis. It has not been accepted by any credible scientific body in the world. The literature behind this diagnosis is from a fringe psychologist who promoted child abuse as something to be accepted in society and promoted the notion that it is the victims and the advocates that are the problem. Mens groups have heavily promoted this as what they have referred to as, “abuse excuse“.

Despite the heavy coercion and psychological abuse that surrounds the use of this fake diagnosis,

it has been not only challenged, but debunked in proceedings. In fact, whilst the court may be able to guard against negligence litigation, family reporters are not so immune as they would like to present to their clients. Even if they use the term Parent Alienation without the disorder or the Syndrome on the end of it, it can still be argued that the term was in reference to Gardner’s syndrome. California introduced a “Non scientific theories” bill to stop the use of Parent Alienation.

You can report them to the psychologist board:

Psychologists Registration Boards

• Australian Capital Territory
• New South Wales
• Northern Territory
• Queensland
• South Australia
• Tasmania
• Victoria
• Western Australia

To work as a psychologist in Australia you are legally required to be registered, in the same way medical practitioners and solicitors must register to practice.

For more information about registration, see Working as a psychologist.

For information on the assessment of psychology qualifications gained overseas or locally, see Assessing Psychology Qualifications.

Australian Capital Territory

Psychologists Board of the ACT
Registrar: Ms Kathleen Taylor
Scala House, 11 Torrens St, Braddon ACT 2612
Tel: (02) 6205 1601
Fax: (02) 6205 1602
Email: kathleen.taylor@act.gov.au
www.health.act.gov.au/healthregboards

New South Wales

Psychologists Registration Board
Secretary: Ms Mary Shanahan
PO Box K599, Haymarket, NSW 1238
Tel: (02) 9219 0211
Fax: (02) 9281 2030
Email: psychreg@hprb.health.nsw.gov.au
www.psychreg.health.nsw.gov.au/

Northern Territory

The Psychology Registration Board of the NT
Registrar: Ms Carolyn Wilson
GPO Box 4221, Darwin, NT 0801
Tel: (08) 8999 4157
Fax: (08) 8999 4196
Email: healthprofessions.ths@nt.gov.au

Queensland

The Psychologists Board of QLD
Registrar: Ms Pauline Portier
GPO Box 2438, Brisbane, QLD 4001
Tel: (07) 3234 1164
Fax: (07) 3225 2527
Email: psychology@healthregboards.qld.gov.au
www.psychologyboard.qld.gov.au/

South Australia

South Australian Psychological Board
Registrar: Mr Peter Martin
16 Norma Street, Mile End, SA 5031
Tel: (08) 8443 9669
Fax: (08) 8443 9550
Email: sapb@saboards.com.au
www.sapb.saboards.com.au/

Tasmania

Psychologists Registration Board
Registrar: Ms Jayne Wilson
Level 2, 24 Murray Street, Hobart Tasmania 7000
Postal: GPO Box 792 Hobart TAS 7001
Ph: (03) 6224 9331
Fax: (03) 6224 9700
Email: psych@regboardstas.com
www.regboardstas.com/psychologists/

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Victoria

Psychologists Registration Board of Victoria
CEO / Registrar: Ms Melanie Saba
PO Box 358, Collins Street West, Melbourne, VIC 8007
Tel: (03) 9629 8722
Fax: (03) 9629 8744
Email: registrar@psychreg.vic.gov.au
www.psychreg.vic.gov.au/

Western Australia

Psychologists Board of WA
Assistant Registrar: Mrs Kim Firth
PO Box 263, West Perth, WA 6872
Tel: (08) 9321 8499
Fax: (08) 9481 4940
Email: psychboard@hlbwa.com.au
www.psychboard.wa.gov.au/

If they are a social worker, you can complain here:

http://www.aasw.asn.au/whatwedo/complaints-management

If they are a lawyer, you can complain here:

http://www.complaintline.com.au/legal_practitioner.html

Whilst complaints may seem like a negative process to go through, it is important that these organisations are aware that these practitioners are not acting appropriately.

Making judgments and decisions based upon non scientific theories is dangerous and detrimental. They ruin it for other practitioners who do not engage in misconduct. These bodies are there to make ensure that integrity within a profession is held so that it does not become a profession that is no longer used.

Family Law and Family Violence: Band-aid For A Gaping Wound

According to the Herald-Sun, the chief Justice of Australian Family Court has proposed changing laws on mediation privacy. The current reasonable grounds for a practitioner to even suspect child abuse reflects the ongoing negligence towards victims of family violence. In fact the law is more tailored towards protecting perpetrators.

67ZA Where member of the Court personnel, family counsellor, family dispute resolution practitioner or arbitrator suspects child abuse etc.

(3) If the person has reasonable grounds for suspecting that a child:

(a) has been ill treated, or is at risk of being ill treated; or

(b) has been exposed or subjected, or is at risk of being exposed or subjected, to behaviour which psychologically harms the child;

“Ill treated” is not defined in the current family law act. This opens the floodgates for pseudo-abuse allegations where a protective parent is deemed abusive for discontinuing visits with the perpetrator.

“Psychological harm” refers often to parent alienation syndrome – A diagnosis that has never been scientifically recognized and largely rejected by the scientific community. The DSM committee has just recently rejected another call for its inclusion. It is no wonder when the creator of this syndrome promoted pedophilia and other abuses whilst deemed the protective parent as unstable.

So Australian Family courts are directed to pursue and punish the abused, than to protect them. The transfer of information is rather more of a compilation of pseudo evidence against the parent who wishes to protect the child. This is in reality about the avoidance of accountability so that the victim will be so traumatized and and entrenched in the pro-abuse culture, that there is little chance the victim will take legal action against the court. Protective parents also bring in far more revenue than the abuser as they are more likely to continue litigation providing court staff with a guaranteed financial future at the expense of a few deaths.

If you want help stop abuse in the family courts, click here.

Born Again Father

Photo by flickrolf

An ex – mens group member speaks out.

When “John” loss contact he was devastated. He tried every avenue that was available to him with no success. “Joining mens groups seemed like the only thing I could do and feel as though I was doing something worthy”. “John” attended meetings and reached out to others that felt the same pain. Some were still in mourning, while others channeled their anger into retribution.

After joining, his friends noticed that he started to change. ” I knew him for years and I never saw him speak down to women, but after joining this mens group – he became irritable and domineering to our female friends”. One day after a meeting, John bumped into a close female friend who was going through family violence and divorce. Despite being covered in bruises, he told her that she should return. “This was so unlike John, I had to do something”, recalled his best friend.

His best friend who also wishes to be unnamed, took him to meet a member of cult survivors. Whilst the mens group that John had joined was not religious, it resembled somepolitical cults that alienated their members from the rest of the world. Divided between two perceptions of how he was influenced by this group, he decided to question the leader about some of the information he was giving to the members. That was when the trouble started. He began to receive threatening phone calls and was accused of being a “feminazi”. “I had to pack up and leave”. Gathering his possessions, he moved far away from where the group was based and started yet again.

With the support of his friends and professional counselling, John was able to start again. John felt that he didn’t have enough room in his life for another relationship, but still felt a sense of emptiness. “Have you ever thought about fostering? There are lots of kids out there that would love to have a caring guy like you around?” suggested his counselor in their closing session. After screening and foster care training, John began taking kids in for respite care. He joined a carer network to swap strategies and connect with others who understood. He would care for young people who had no safe place to go and began to see them heal. After two years of being a respite foster carer, he has never looked back. “Its challenging, I have had holes in the walls and things go missing – but nothing compared to celebrating their achievements that we never even dreamed of when they started, worth more than gold”.

If you would like to find out more about fostering children in Australia, click here.